What’s Current: ‘Male feminist’ writer faces multiple sexual assault allegations

What’s Current is Feminist Current’s daily news roundup.

  • Michael Hafford, a self-described male feminist columnist, is facing allegations of sexual assault from multiple women. One woman posted pictures of bruises she says she got from him strangling her until she was unconscious.
  • Brayden Bushby, 18 — the man who is accused of throwing a trailer hitch from a car in Thunder Bay and killing Barbara Kentner — has been charged with second degree murder. Prior to today, Bishby was facing a charge of aggravated assault.
  • Trump refers to Senator Elizabeth Warren in racist terms. Again.
  • Female lawmakers in the US recount stories of sexual harassment by male colleagues in congress.
Lisa Steacy
Lisa Steacy

Lisa Steacy is an Assistant Editor at Feminist Current. She has a B.A. in Women & Gender Studies from the University of Toronto. However, the women she met in her five years as a frontline worker and collective member with Vancouver Rape Relief & Women’s Shelter deserve almost all of the credit for her feminist education. She lives in Vancouver with her partner and their cats.

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  • Laurie

    Beware of male feminists. No such thing

    • JCortese

      There might be such a thing as guys who can be trusted to behave as allies (although really, maybe fewer than ten on the whole planet), but the thing is they don’t advertise it. Any guy who advertises it and makes a big public stink over being one and demands to be recognized as such is hiding something, period. My idea of a “male feminist” is not a guy who writes dudebro articles about sex but a guy who performs surgeries in fistula hospitals in third world countries repairing girls’ bodies who have been used as sex toilets and made to give birth at the age of 12. Such men aren’t wasting their time demanding to be called feminists online; they’re too damned busy.

      • Wren

        I completely agree. I have yet to meet a self-appointed feminist man who meets my criteria. It is usually the humble men who have an ounce of compassion and the curiosity and ability to listen who end up being the only male allies I’ve ever known. It’s pretty basic, actually.

        • Meghan Murphy

          Word word

    • xijo

      R.L. Stine should write a Goosebumps about these duplicitous ogre farts.

  • Jani

    Forcing cocaine into a woman’s vagina during sex? WTF?!!!!! I’ve had my reservations about “male feminists” for many years. They have often turned out to be the worst offenders.

  • Hekate Jayne

    Meghan, please ignore this if this is not the correct time or place. But this is the largest group of like minded women that I know, and I am hoping to spread the word a little bit.

    You can read Helen Steel’s statement here:

    https://helensteelbookfairstatement.wordpress.com/2017/11/02/statement-on-events-at-anarchist-bookfair-2017-by-helen-steel/

    If you can give her a little support, please do so. A few of us have blogs. I have reblogged her statement and left her an encouraging comment. Even just a few words of encouragement can make all of the difference.

    TIMs have got to know that there are a lot of us and that we will support women and we will stand up for each other. They can DARVO, they can call me terfy, call me a BIGOT, whatever. But I will not be afraid and I will not shut my fucking mouth.

    • Meghan Murphy

      Oh thank you for posting this here!

      • Hekate Jayne

        Thanks for providing a place to share it.

  • FierceMild

    From the Male Feminist article:

    “(K)issing somehow became penetrative sex even after protests, sex suddenly included unwanted physical violence.”

    As opposed to that completely indistinguishable yet totally okay wanted physical violence. Let’s all go out of our way to specify that the violence wasn’t wanted every single time a man assaults a woman. Because, of course, if you don’t specify that she didn’t want to be choked unconscious, have drugs shoved up her vagina, and get punched in the face it’s totally reasonable to assume that she did want to be choked, penetrated with narcotics, and punched. You know, in that healthy, wicked sexy way that women dig that kind of thing. After all, why else would a man ever do it?!

    • Hekate Jayne

      “…..somehow became…..”

      “……..suddenly included……”

      It was like POOF! And there was male sexual violence! Just out of the air!

      Just so suddenly and out of nowhere! Like a pervy magician’s trick!

      There is no way to tell exactly why the choking and the beating started! The penetration and the male violence just materialized! Out of nothing!

      No way of telling who chose it or who is responsible! It is a male mystery that will require Scooby doo, Sherlock Holmes, many books and many long nights of research to figure it out! No one knows who chooses to inflict male violence! How can we? When it so suddenly just comes out of nowhere????

      I hate it when that happens.

  • FierceMild

    It already had been used as a defense in murder trials and rape trials as well.

  • Wren

    “Once you have women consenting to sexualized violence (as some do) it’s going to cause huge problems for women making complaints of rape and sexual assault.”

    I think this was the plan, and I also don’t think women ever consent to this shit. They might get an ultimatum from the man, or a threat of abandonment, but was there ever any woman who said to her kind, sensual lover, “honey, tonight I would like you to choke me”?? I really fucking doubt it.

  • Jani

    The biggest con trick player on women was to get them to consume porn. Women are becoming the target audience for paid-for porn because the porn pimps know that the dudes will watch all sorts of shit for hours on the free sites. Stuff they don’t want their partners to know about. Hence this growing market for “women-friendly porn”. And what is that exactly? Porn that’s described as “non-violent”—which in itself is a pretty disturbing concept. It’s almost an admission that *everything else* is abusive, misogynist shit.

    I agree that this porn culture we are living in grooms women to accept sexual abuse as part of normal male behaviour, and puts enormous pressures on young women to give their boyfriends, or casual hookups more likely, the “porn star experience”. We have regressed so far as a society. It’s disturbing.

  • JCortese

    I came to that conclusion myself; I think the opposite conclusion always sounded nice and non-judgey to me but sat poorly in my head, as if some part of my brain knew it was bullshit deep down. Do not tell me that a man whose girlfriend “consents” to getting treated like shit during sex isn’t going to have that twisted relationship affect the way he treats the women around him at work, on the street, and socially.

    And don’t tell me that the woman who consents to it is going to be otherwise normal and well-adjusted. I have known in my life the odd woman here and there who acts all “subby” and tried to tell herself that it was a liberating choice — every single one of them had an incredibly fucked up childhood. That is NOT a choice that a healthy individual makes, and as such I don’t think it should be modeled or held up as empowering any more than self-starvation or cutting.

    The shit we do in private ABSOLUTELY affects how we behave in the world, and hence the others around us.