The Girlfriend Experience ignores the true meaning of the term

the girlfriend experience

On April 10th, The Girlfriend Experience — a 10 episode long series starring Riley Keough — premiered on Starz. The premise of the show centers around a law school student named Christine Reade (played by Keough), who decides to start working as a (very high-paid) escort on the side. The trailer portrays Reade’s new world as one filled with sex and affluence, mostly void of people of color or the working class.

Neither co-creator, Amy Seimetz, or executive producer, Steven Soderbergh (who directed a 2009 film by the same name), have lived experience in the sex industry, but reading about the creative process behind the project, you’d think that The Girlfriend Experince is a just neutral portrayal of the sex industry. Seimetz writes:

“My reservations about doing the show would be the same as any woman having reservations about doing sex work… Do I agree with women or men selling their bodies? I don’t know. The ‘I don’t know’ land is where I like to lurk. How else can we test the boundaries of who we are? I have never chosen to do sex work, but I know people who have. Whatever topic I explore; I try to be as nonjudgmental as possible.”

Who knows what goes on in the sex industry, really? What’s important it’s that we approach the topic without judgement. It’s not like there are countless people who lived through the industry themselves, and have made it their mission to advocate against its glamorization

A young, white law school student in the US who moves through the world of high-end prostitution entirely based on personal choice is not only not representative, but also doesn’t acknowledge the privileged positionalities that a character like Reade carries, and how the intersections of her identity (white, wealthy…) are anything but neutral.

It’s strange to read articles about how the best sex on TV is sex that has to be paid for. It’s also strange for reviewers to present the The Girlfriend Experience as “multilayered” and groundbreaking without any acknowledgement of what “the girlfriend experience” is and what it represents in the sex trade.

Survivor advocates who have direct experience in prostitution, as well as people who have done research on the sex industry, as I have, will tell you that “the girlfriend experience” is more than just a phrase; it is an actual term that describes a specific set of services (which includes both physical and emotional labour) that can be expected upon payment.

The sex buyer-run Punting Wiki describes GFE as such:

“… An escort experience like being with a real girlfriend. There is no agreed list of services included, but you expect kissing or DFK, oral sex and full sex. It does not include the more adventurous services you would expect from a PSE or fetish services.”

PSE refers to “the pornstar experience,” which is described as more “raunchy and adventurous” in nature and a counter to the GFE. Notably, the PSE doesn’t require a woman to fake emotional connection or the pretense of intimacy, whereas the GFE makes this paramount.

By definition, the GFE is not meant to reinforce the agency and power of the person performing it. Rather, it is meant to consolidate and perpetuate the imbalance of power and the weight of the preferences and desires of the person who paid for the service. GFE often means eye-contact during sex acts, cuddling, deep French kissing, giggling, gentle touching, etc. — the kind of physical and psychological cues that would arise organically from a genuine partnership between equally attracted and interested people… but in intervals of an hour or less, with multiple strangers, several times a day. The Girlfriend Experience is aware of this dynamic, to its credit — it is acknowledged that Reade is faking intimacy, despite her apparent enjoyment of the actual sex part. The problem is that this acknowledgement is embedded in the rhetoric of empowerment through choice. And while some level of empowerment may exist for some individuals in the sex industry, we know that those experiences are not common.

Keough said about her character:

“I liked the idea of showing a girl who doesn’t come from an oppressive background, who is intelligent and has a lot going for her, that ends up in sex work. Not the other story, which has been told before.”

“The other story” being: women in desperate situations, who have experienced trauma, and do not enjoy the work. As an actress, the narrative put forth in The Girlfriend Experience may be appealing but we must question whose reality is being portrayed and why. Oppression is not something we can treat as “passé” or “been there, done that.” And reinforcing a narrative that only benefits the privileged is not “groundbreaking.”

In my own research I have analyzed over 2,000 online reviews submitted by men on johns’ forums and, although many reviews are positive (meaning that the sex buyers were pleased with their experience), the negative (and most misogynist) reviews generally complained about the same thing: the interruption of fantasy. At one point the façade was lifted and the johns were exposed to the reality that many of these women did not deliberately join the sex industry to sexually empower themselves.

A john named “bad_hobbit” describes an experience that didn’t live up to his fantasy of a true GFE as such:

“I’ve had girlfriend experiences with current and past girlfriends and quite a few WGs [working girls]. Vicky would look spectacular on your arm, but she provided all the GFE of a blow-up doll. OK, so I’m old enough to be her dad, and I’m not the handsomest guy around, but neither am I the ugliest — she even complimented me on my fit body. A good WG knows how to flatter and please, and strike up a rapport with the punter. I also like to chat, have a laugh and a joke and turn it into more than just a quick fuck. Vicky clearly wasn’t interested in any of that, and just went through the motions to get paid, so unless you like fucking a beautiful but totally detached girl with limited English, steer clear of Vicky.”

This detachment that “bad_hobbit” describes is what psychologists identify as disassociation — a necessary survival strategy that most people in the sex industry deploy or develop as a way to cope with the work they do.

There is something telling about the prevalence and glamorization of an industry wherein the very skills and strategies that people on the supply side need to adopt in order to survive and cope become the things that the demand side abhors the most.

The essence of “the girlfriend experience” is captured perfectly by another john called “laptops,” who explains that “after being let down by my regular lady” he decided to pay someone to accommodate him. Everything is wonderful and agreeable in his eyes, as a sex buyer, so long as the woman pretends to be enjoying herself and does what he wants her to do. The second she reveals her own human feelings (disappointment, rejection, anger, boredom…), or that this is, in fact, a transaction, the spell is broken and he is exposed to the reality of his own actions.

He writes:

“Now at this point I would have recommended Chloe, in spite of the very by the book, sex by numbers routine. However when I returned to the room, Chloe barely said anything and had her back to me as I dressed. Now I had been friendly, clean and thoughtful, or at least I tried. When dressed I walked past Chloe and she just looked at me & didn’t even get up. I leaned over and kissed her on the cheek & said goodbye. I couldn’t have felt worse [emphasis added].”

There’s your “girlfriend experience,” Soderbergh and Seimetz: a system wherein a woman fails when she lets the mask slip, revealing that she is not, in fact, in bed with a man she truly desires. The sex buyer becomes disenchanted and “pissed off by the nos” when the fantasy is not perfectly executed, so takes his fantasies elsewhere.

In the sex industry’s GFE, the free market rules. The buyer decides how a woman dresses, speaks, what positions she enacts, how she must react to each part of the sexual experience, how to properly orgasm or experience pleasure. He demands the woman he pays plays the part of a loving, caring, obedient girlfriend while simultaneously performing the role of “hypersexual vixen.” The second it becomes clear that, under the sexpot/sweet girlfriend façade lies an actual person with desires and a background, with preferences and an ability to feel pain (both physical and psychological), the GFE has failed. Where is the empowerment in that? Whose freedom and sexual liberty are we talking about here?

Meghan Murphy writes for Verily that “a newfound fondness for seeking ‘agency’ over victimization, introduced by third wave feminism and adopted by today’s Gender Studies programs, functions like The Secret for progressives, who use the power of positive thinking to theorize away power structures and abuse in favor of an ’empowering’ narrative.” This narrative is written in neon lights in The Girlfriend Experience.

In a hyperventilating ode, Maxim writer Chelsea Hassler describes Christine Reade as the femme fatale we’ve been waiting for — a modern day superheroine. She writes:

“It’s important to note that Christine’s superpower isn’t sex, it’s her distance from it. Introspective yet alarmingly self-assured… And that’s how she truly embraces her power; by identifying the one thing that she has no emotional commitment to, which enables her to engage and manipulate the outside world in a way that doesn’t compromise her sense of self. She crafts the act into something detached and calculated, a single-sum game that she only plays when she can get something out of it. She makes sex into a weapon, a means to an end; where others fall to mush in a tangle of limbs and loves, Christine is invincible.”

The “freedom” to be cold and distant, to show emotion on command, and to do as told by whoever is paying for the next half hour: victory at last, feminism! Our work here is done.

But before we put down our feminist banners, let’s not forget that, contrary to popular belief, most sex buyers are in partnered relationships, many of them with children. The myth of the sex-starved lonely man-child living with his mom and paying for prostitutes is only that: a myth. Outside of the sex industry, most heterosexual johns have wives and girlfriends (and daughters too). Totally real girlfriends — not just for 30 minutes, but every day. Why go to an escort for “a real girlfriend” experience when you have an actual girlfriend?

If we want to learn about a girlfriend experience, how about we ask the actual women who are in relationships with sex buyers? How do they feel about being in relationships with men who believe they are entitled to sex, who demand and complain when their fantasy girlfriend doesn’t wear the clothes they want them to wear, say what they want them to say, and don’t engage every sex act in the exact way that they want them to? What does it feel like to be in relationships with men who complain about having to see a body that has given birth, that has fat on it, or that shows any sign of age?

For the girlfriends and wives of sex buyers, what does it feel like to know that your partner’s idealized version of you is little more than an eternally youthful, automated robot that can be controlled by a wallet and will cater to every fantasy and desire, without any concern for your comfort or pain? What is it like to be in a relationship with someone who disregards your socioeconomic status? Thanks to shows like The Girlfriend Experience, we may never know the answers to these questions, because the creators are not interested in women’s experiences — either at home with sex buyers or behind closed doors in the sex industry.

The Girlfriend Experience has nothing to do with real women (escorts or not), and everything to do with glorifying the ultimate fantasies of johns, wherein women’s realities are invisible and only men’s misogynist illusions are entertained.

Raquel María Rosario SánchezRaquel Rosario Sanchez is an activist, advocate and writer from the Dominican Republic. Her work centers ending violence against women and girls and investigating the demand side of prostitution. Her research looks at review boards and online communities for buyers in the sex industry.

Raquel Rosario Sanchez
Raquel Rosario Sanchez

Raquel Rosario Sanchez is a writer from the Dominican Republic. Her utmost priority in her work and as a feminist is to end violence against girls and women. Her work has appeared in several print and digital publications both in English and Spanish, including: Feminist Current, El Grillo, La Replica, Tribuna Feminista, El Caribe and La Marea. You can follow her @8rosariosanchez where she rambles about feminism, politics, and poetry.

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  • I don’t think it’s realistic to expect Hollywood to present prostitution honestly. I don’t think they can, because they’re too compromised.

    Hollywood has been in partnership with prostitution pretty much from the beginning. In the studio era the studio put B-listers of both sexes to work in brothels when they weren’t busy on set. Some were expected to work as escorts for visitors, as well. Today, it’s handled separately, but there are agencies that provide sex work for actresses/models who need the money. A lot need the money.

    Actresses have pretty much always been expected to be prostitutes. I’ve seen it cited for classical India as well. And China.

    And then you get the on-camera sexualized content, which is basically sexual harassment. Like, you gotta do it if you want the job (definitely for most women, but also often for men as well). And you’re “unprofessional” if you have a problem with it. (There’s a lot of grooming in acting classes for this.)

    I think the only way Hollywood could get this stuff right were if it were willing to see its own role in prostituting people. Unfortunately I don’t see that happening any time soon.

    • Nora Temple

      Not to mention the old trope of sleeping with the director to get the role…what a lot of attractive young actresses are accused of…

    • Astrid

      ‘A table for one’ with Rebecca De Mornay is pretty good.

  • fragglerock

    Oh, barf. You’re not empowered when the only thing that keeps you alive is pleasing some abusive misogynist. Being detached from sex is not a super power, it’s a survival mechanism. To Johns, sex workers are blow-up dolls with a pulse, tools for their pleasure. It makes me sick that this is what passes for female empowerment.


    EXCELLENT ARTICLE. THANK U Raquel Rosario Sanchez !

    • Raquel Rosario Sánchez

      Thank you very much, SPLIN+everyone! 🙂

  • Laura

    keough’s quote is awful. how far removed from women’s lives do you have to be to say something like that. oh yes, sexual abuse, positively dreary. sex trafficking, how tiresome! what a bore!

    i’ve been thinking lately about how detached i’ve been from my body in the past, and it’s very unsettling to read about having that experience of yourself praised as your “power”. like, it’s a side effect of sexual abuse. its scary to think about young girls getting this message, that this…absence and like, cavalier attitude towards their bodies is something good.
    not to mention a man would never get this kind of “compliment”

  • oneclickboedicea

    Great article!

  • Independent Radical

    “I don’t know. The ‘I don’t know’ land is where I like to lurk.”

    In other words you hate knowledge. You hate truth and people who seek out. You think ignorance and apathy are strength, why don’t liberals just come right out and say that? It is exactly what they are implying. “People who think they know stuff are scary, ahhh, get away from me before you infect me with your tendency to actually believe in things.”

    The reviews are hilarious and yet disturbing. “How dare a woman who cannot speak English very well fail to shower me with sophisticated compliments? How dare a woman avoid looking at me when I come it, I deserve to have women saluting me every time I enter a room!” Me molesta mucho el hombre quien se quejó sobre la mujer que no hablaba mucho ingles porque estoy en un pais donde no hablo la lengua bien y cuando intento crear conexiones con las personas que está aqui es muy dificil. Sin embargo, no quiero tener amistad con quienes usan las mujeres en prostitucion nada!

    I think the important thing to note is that even the gentlest, most physically enjoyable kisses and hugs (the fact that oral sex is included on the list of essential “relationship” behaviour when it was once exclusive to pornography and prostitution is disturbing enough) are not what distinguishes relationships from casual sex. Such activities are only expressions of love, not its essence. These shallow imitations practised by the sex industry are an insult to genuine, egalitarian, personality-based love.

    • Raquel Rosario Sánchez

      Independent Radical, ¿me hablaste en español a proposito? ¡Que chevere!

      Si, tienes razon. Todas esta comunidades tienen un componente racial y xenofobo que no se puede negar. Es como que en muchos de estos “reviews” los hombres no juzgan a las mujeres solo en base a como demuestran su feminidad y complacencia, sino tambien que tan subjugadas son frente a un hombre con mas poder economico y mas influencia historica desde la perspectiva imperialista. Horrible.

  • Rachel

    Brilliant article! Thank you so much. It makes me sick, all this male entitlement. You hit the nail on the head with the part about ‘what does it feel like to know your partner’s idealised version of you is little more than an eternally youthful, automated robot that can be controlled by a wallet and cater to every fantasy and desire.’ How sick and sad has this world become that this is completely normal and something women are just meant to brush aside. Disgusting.

  • Lucia Lola

    This really hits close to home with me. I worry about those women when they don’t keep up the GFE to the satisfaction of these johns. Hearing a couple of them remark that they were “clean” and somewhat polite as though it were gifts makes me shudder.

    And yes. These are men with committed partners, usually. Makes it all the more grotesque.

    • Wren

      Rachel Moran talks about this a lot in her book. These men were THE WORST — waaaayyyy worse than the average john who knows he’s just getting a fuck, not your soul.

    • Raquel Rosario Sánchez

      Hey Lucia Lola,
      Yes, those reviews are scary to read. It’s chilling to see how much they praise the perfect performance of their demands and yet the second the women say something as simple as “don’t kiss my arms” or “I don’t want you to touch my face” then they become vicious.

  • I subscribe to Starz, so I’ve been seeing the ads for this show. I knew from the commercials this would be an unrealistic fantasy version of the sex industry. This is what the Twitter feminists would have us believe it’s really like.

  • yummymoussaka

    I would like to know where “the other story” has actually been told before. Is she talking about the numerous disposable “dead hookers” on crime shows? I don’t think it really counts as the other story being told unless the woman is the main character (or at least one of the main characters, or okay, I’ll even take a side character that gets a story arc), and we learn about how she got into the trade and see what her experience is like in the trade. I can’t think of a one movie or TV show that really does that for the “low-end” full of people “who come from an oppressed background”.

    I suppose Anemone is right, that is not the sort of project that would get a green light in Hollywood.

    I can think of numerous pieces of fiction where a “high-end escort” of some kind is one of the main characters. This is the story that has been told too many times. Not the “other” one. I mean, before I read up on prostitution, it didn’t even occur to me that it’s ever traumatic. I had this glossed-over idea of what prostitution was, and why is that? Because that’s the side the industry fights tooth and nail to keep as the mainstream image.

  • Wren

    I never knew any prostitute who enjoyed it. It was maybe better than something else, like abject poverty. The only reason why some women may feel that prostitution is empowering is because they finally get to use their trauma for some gain (and yeah, we all had sexual trauma). It was like saying that all the abuse and mistreatment didn’t kill you and, in fact, you made it serve you. And at least you’re not one man’s property (this is of course referring to free agents or women without pimps). So in some ways, maybe this show got that part right. It’s hard to imagine how anyone can think this is a good thing.

    What women who enter the life under these conditions don’t know is that they may never get out. The traumas pile up. Drugs become necessary. They get beaten. They don’t realize they’re being raped everyday until it seems too late. And if they manage not to get killed, they wonder how they will ever be a normal human again and if they ever were. And then they feel stuck. Finding decent help seems impossible because of all the lies everyone believes.

    It takes decades to recover. It fucking sucks.

  • lk

    Back when I was pro-legalizing prostitution, I used to read stuff on one of the Nevada brothels websites and I’m gonna share some some of the phrases from their GFE menu description:

    -the most sensuous and intimate GFE
    -ladies provide empathy, tenderness, and quality conversation
    -have a romantic dinner date with your girlfriend
    -cuddling with your GFE companion
    -a woman who genuinely wants to fulfill your sensual desires

    There is so much contradiction here, its laughable- you cannot have “genuine intimacy” with someone you buy. Woman who provide GFE services must be amazing actresses..but it must be incredibly draining to have fake this level of emotional interest in someone when you really just want their money.

  • MermaidJayne

    This. Exactly this. Just because things in the West look nicer on the outside doesn’t mean there’s not some serious shit going on underneath. Seriously having traveled over the world it always surprises me how strong/aggressive/forthright the feminism of other countries is… especially those countries where womens rights are the worst. Despite everything a lot of those women are like 5x stronger feminists then women in the west. I guess is a lot of that has to do with the oppression being worse and more obvious so the response is always likewise.

    But it feels good that in western countries I feel like a radical feminist whos crazy about feminism but in a lot of other places… india, africa im actually a mild level feminist. Western women have the money, the power more than any other women in the world… and we really really really need to speak up and be extremely active, because we have enough going for us that we can make it better for us and all other women in the world.

  • Jonathan Bailyn

    Awesome article. I read it twice. I have a question that maybe the author or one of the commenters can help me with. The author, in criticizing the Maxim review of the show, writes:

    The “freedom” to be cold and distant, to show emotion on command, and to do as told by whoever is paying for the next half hour: Victory at last, feminism! Our work here is done.

    Can someone expand on this? The rhetorical exclamation is good only to the extent her point is self-evident. But I’d like to know more.

    I take the author to mean that dispassion is not a feminist victory. Is that right? Or is it that acting on demand is not a feminist victory? Is that also right? What would feminism require of the character in this show? And what is it that the character is failing to do? Is the original sin prostitution itself?

    • Alienigena

      Did you read the last paragraph? Sums up the article quite nicely.

      “The Girlfriend Experience has nothing to do with real women
      (escorts or not), and everything to do with glorifying the ultimate
      fantasies of johns, wherein women’s realities are invisible and only
      men’s misogynist illusions are entertained.”.

      If you actually read the article you would have received clarification through phrases like “theorize away power structures and abuse”, “idealized version of … an eternally youthful, automated robot” or “imbalance of power”. Or terms like ‘dissociation’, which you can look up on Google at any time.

      Behaving like a robot or dissociating to survive abuse is not a feminist victory, no. I think you can take your leading statements “Is the original sin prostitution itself?” and go … fill in the blank.

  • mrpotatohead

    “And while some level of empowerment may exist for some individuals in the sex industry, we know that those experiences are not common.”

    Assuming the protagonist is a woman who can make totally decontextualized choices – like a Jesus figure almost – someone who is totally unsocialized, exists outside any norms, with an unlimited array of options and power – a stylized, mythical being that probably exists only in Sodenberg’s head – would then, the protagonist’s actions in this show be anti-feminist? Is the act of protagonist’s prostitution itself the problem? Is prostitution a problem because of the context in which it exists, or is it inherently bad in relation to both woman individually and women as a class?

    I just got the Freedom Fallacy in the mail, so if the answer’s in there, lemme know.

    • lk

      I don’t know how familiar you are with this site; but I would type in prostitution into the search option here and start’ll get a ton of information that way.

      You might start with this one:

      “Assuming the protagonist is a woman who can make totally decontextualized choices”-as the rest of your question states, any person who fits this description wouldn’t really be a woman..but basically a god-like figure…so I’m not sure we could even think of her actions in terms of something like feminist or anti-feminist.

      Prostitution itself is a problem because it harms women (and girls) individually and a class-it’s an institute that thrives on violence, abuse; that relies on the economic inequality and limited options of women around the world. Its predicated on the idea that men “need” sex and women are merely objects whose insides can be bought and sold.

      Is part of your question about the idea that there is a context in which prostitution can be a good thing? I don’t think so; I think in an ideal world some things just would not be for sale or have a monetary value added to them.

      • mrpotatohead

        That’s helpful. Thank you. So, since an ideal state regards sex as inalienable, – cannot be bought or sold – the protagonists ‘s choices, even if totally autonomous, contribute to a market that should not exist in the first place? I can dig that, if I’m understanding you right.

  • lk

    Yeah, these men are just asking for sooo much-access to all your holes plus conversation, intimacy, compliments and the list goes on and on.

    There is something more honest about a john who just goes to a prostitute for a sex; there is no effort to hide or sugarcoat the transactional relationship: he wants sex and she wants money….no need to create some fake façade at liking or caring about each other.

    I sincerely hope that women who provide GFE charge these men through the nose for it. (Not that I think any amount of money would make it worth it, but I think if men are going to demand so much from a prostitute, she should get a lot of money from him).

    And I feel horrible for the partners of these men who have no clue what their partners are doing.

  • calabasa

    “You know what’s funny about the term “girlfriend experience?” You’ve heard that, right? What’s funny is it’s not. Not at all. It’s the fantasy girlfriend experience. The gold-digger experience, let’s be honest…a real girlfriend experience I wouldn’t have to agree with everything he said all the time, rub his shoulders when maybe I’m the one who’s more tired, anticipate his every need and cater to it exactly. A real girlfriend experience I would fight with him sometimes and sometimes disagree with him just to keep things interesting. And not be his sex-slave shoulder to cry on. His sounding-board and scratching post, when he needs a therapist in the echo chamber—that’s not real therapy—or to scratch an itch instead of, you know, have a real sexual experience. A real girlfriend experience it would go up and down how I felt about him all the time—one of us would be more in love with the other sometimes—sometimes I would look at him and feel impatience or disgust, and other times the connection would be so real we could read each other’s minds, and I would treasure and idolize that and hate myself for the other part of it…a real girlfriend experience and he wouldn’t want me to twist and shudder under him only because it made him feel like a man but also because he loved me so intensely he wanted to do anything he could to please me. A real girlfriend experience would be not all about him.

    And that’s the worst thing they can do to you, these men; these men who complain about their marriages when the truth is just she won’t put up with his bullshit, or is no longer interested in having sex with him, because of his anger problem, or because he doesn’t listen, or hell, because he’s just so fucking boring…that level of narcissism. Of unexamined entitlement. It’s soured me forever on men. Now I find when I date them I only want to fight with them, which means it never lasts long. After all day of soothing men’s egos if I fight with you it’s because I like you. It means I think you’re a real person and you’re worth being real with. And if you can push through that—be patient—maybe you can break down those walls with me. But men only look at women in terms of their usefulness; they don’t pursue women because of who they are—because of fascination with their characters. They don’t have patience for a woman who takes time, who is a little wary, who expects equal interest and good treatment..women don’t get to be brooding, they don’t get to have that kind of difficult charisma. Not if they want a male partner. Men go after women for utilitarian functions: sex, she’s gotta be hot, check; she’s gotta be nice and sweet and accommodating and helpful and support me in my life’s endeavors, check; there’s no trade-off… And when their wives grow distant and dissatisfied in their marriages—no longer able to just put up with it, no longer able after years of doing the hard work in the relationship to give “the girlfriend experience”—they come to me.”

    • ptittle

      All of which means men don’t want real girlfriends. That is to say, what men want in real girlfriends is not real women. “The Girlfriend Experience” says more about men’s real relationships than their paid-for relationships. (Oh, wait. They’re the same. No, I mean, they want them to be the same.)

  • Raquel Rosario Sánchez

    Hey Ik, I hear you. You read those for too long and they start eating away at your psyche.

    I struggled with this for a little bit when I started doing the research and then I realized the obvious: try going to a partner with a list of sexual services that you demand, explain to them how you want them done, what clothes they want to wear, how you want them to orgasm and try telling your partner that they can’t go up a size 6 or show any signs of age, try telling them that (if you want children or have already had children) that you want their body to show no signs of childbirth, etc….

    Unless you are in an abusive relationship under some extremely controlling dynamics, most people would dump these men’s asses before they even get to the dress size! It’s also impossible to control women’s bodies so that they remain eternally under 25. That’s biology.

    They are fairly outspoken that they wouldn’t even dream of either telling their partners or having their partners find out because they are fully aware of how misogynist these demands are.

  • Meghan Murphy

    Most men who pay for sex are married. They don’t “have to pay” — they choose to.

  • Wren

    Well then I hope you get out safely and in one piece. Please prove me wrong.

  • nevvvvave

    I agree with this analysis almost 100%, and i don’t know if Raquel watched the whole season or not, but i do think that even in the show itself it becomes clear that what Christine thought was empowering soon began to twist out of her control very quickly. The show totally does glamorize high-end white women escorts but when Christine’s life begins to unravel what I took from that is that it’s naive for any woman to think that she’s somehow above the workings of system based on female exploitation. I’m confused as to why the PR for the show portrayed it as empowering….