Tag: masculinity

A letter to men: Porn is not just women’s problem

I have been fortunate enough to have a lot of good men in my life: friends, family, lovers, classmates, pro-feminist allies. But no matter how “good” you are and no matter what…

The modern john got himself a queer nanny

There is something very odd about the prostitution debate. While the absolute majority of sex buyers are male, an overwhelming majority of intellectuals defending prostitution are women. It’s a strange phenomenon that…

Coming out as ‘non-binary’ throws other women under the bus

The cool thing for “feminist” writers to do lately is “come out” as “non-binary” or “genderqueer.” These women claim to be non-binary based on the premise that they have complex inner lives…

Fifteen ways the world revolves around men’s penises

We all know that, in a patriarchy, the world revolves around men’s penises in a general sense, but here are 15 ways we can see this reality manifest itself, more specifically: 1)…

Having an opinion while female? Get ready for a fight

Many of you will be unsurprised to learn that I get in a lot of arguments with men. These arguments often take place in bars and they are almost always instigated by…

Of monsters and men

The house I grew up in has two bedrooms on one side of the house, a long hall, and then a master bedroom. I remember the living room as a sterile space…

What fathers should tell their sons

When they find out, people ask me incredulously if I regret not attending my father’s funeral. I had no relationship with my father for all of my adult life. I lived a…

Whining about boys in bars: On feminism and loving men

There’s something awkward about being a feminist and dealing with heartbreak. I know, of course, that we all do get our hearts broken from time to time; that our politics can hardly…

Set to Explode: On masculinity and death

My best friend died at twenty years old. He, like so many males, was set to explode; a bomb of manhood with a wick as short as impulse. He was taught only…