What’s Current: Men’s Fitness tells men how to ‘turn a no into a yes’

men's fitnessArticle in Men’s Fitness magazine tells men to “plow ahead anyway” when women ignore or reject them at bars. (The article has now, apparently, been removed.)

Michelle Obama talks learnings from the first United State of Women Conference in Washington DC. The USW focusses on six “pillar” topics: economic empowerment, health and wellness, educational opportunity, violence against women, entrepreneurship and innovation, and leadership and civic engagement.

Feminist forced to go into hiding because of attacks from Men’s Rights Activists is re-exposed to online harassment after being publicly outed by an LCBO employee. 

BBC Wimbledon commentator Andrew Castle throws in his two cents on the physical appearance of Marcus Willis’ girlfriend. Thanks, bud.

Jason “Jace” Alexander, a television director who worked on “Law & Order,” has been sentenced to 10 years probation on child pornography charges.

David Leyonhjelm, senator in Australia’s New South Whales, tells respected feminist Melinda Tankard Reist to “shut the fuck up” over twitter. 

 

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  • Andrew Cole

    My wife was telling me about this-this morning. What a sleazy magazine to publish something like that. No wonder so many young men, (and plenty of older ones too), feel entitled to women’s bodies. Not only is it offensive on the surface since it advocates pressuring a woman after she has said no, but it also re-enforces the idea that women are just sex objects and not people.

  • Christina_Puck

    This persistent myth that women don’t know what we want and need our boundaries constantly tested is so awful. And also that women are a collective hivemind who you just have to say certain things or act a certain way, like using a certain locker combination, and we will all respond the same. As if we have no preferences of our own. It sets up this idea that if a woman is not interested, it’s because you aren’t playing “the game” right, and it sets men up to feel resentful, entitled, and unable to take a rejection without offense. Maybe we just don’t want to be bothered by strangers who 99 percent of the time we have NOTHING in common with anyway. These men just want to use women for their own validation, they don’t care about what we may be thinking.

  • Wren

    True. The concept of the book is that it could be in any environment, like asking if you need help with bags and a woman says no. It’s a great book if you haven’t read it! I give copies to all my close girlfriends.

  • Wren

    I hadn’t thought of that. Gives me a reason to read it again!

    • Cassandra

      Yes, when I read the comments of people defending males in female spaces, it sounds just like rape culture-y NOTALLMENZ shit. I forget where I saw it, but the Girl Scouts new trans inclusive manifesto of sorts basically tells girls that they shouldn’t be afraid of males. It’s the grooming of female children to be nice to males, to not hurt their feelings, to put their own sense of safety aside–easier prey that way. Same shit, different day.

      • Wren

        HOLY MOTHERFUCKINGSHIT NO

  • Cassandra

    Yeah, so many so-called “great stories,” especially Hollywood movies, are written by men, who get to write the endings. The hero persists in the face of “no” and sooner or later the woman caves and sees what a great guy he is. It’s male domination propaganda that teaches men an obnoxious sense of entitlement and brainwashes women into thinking such things are “romantic.” Until they turn up raped or dead.

    But we know that when a woman says “no” she means NO. It is not the beginning of a negotiation. It’s anything but romantic when a man won’t take “no” for an answer. It’s creepy, scary, domineering, disrespectful, boundary violating and dangerous.

  • Cassandra

    Yup. You summed it up pretty accurately!

  • lk

    I’ve never heard of this book, I’m adding it to my summer wish reading list though.

    I think if a man doesn’t respect your no, it is a HUGE red flag because its basically his way of saying that what you want is irrelevant, that his needs trump yours, that his desires are all that matter. How can you have a loving, fun, happy relationship with someone who doesn’t care about your wants or your boundaries?