Yes, all women are vulnerable to male violence

Cricketer Mustafa Bashir leaving Manchester Crown Court (Image: Cavendish Press/Pat Isaacs)

What makes a woman invulnerable to male violence? Apparently, if she is “an intelligent woman with a network of friends” and has a university degree.

Despite having beaten his wife with a cricket bat, poured bleach down her throat, and forced her to take tablets while ordering to kill herself, Mustafa Bashir was spared jail time. Judge Richard Mansell QC defended his ruling based on the fact he was “not convinced [Fakhara Karim was] a vulnerable person.”

The notion that intelligent, educated women cannot be victims is an incredibly dangerous one (never mind untrue). It plays into all sorts of stereotypes around what a proper victim should look like — that she should be helpless, meek, passive, isolated, and naive. In making these statements, we not only tell women they should be ashamed and will not be believed, but we erase the fact of male power. These presumptions say that agency erases victimization and that male violence is about the individual circumstances of women, rather than about systems of domination.

Women who have been abused by men have likely already heard things said to or about them that, at their root, question whether the abuse counts — “Why did she stay?” “Why would she let him get away with that?” “She’s a smart woman — she should have known better…”

Smart, strong women with friends and agency are abused all the time by men, and with all this talk of “victim blaming” in recent years, one would think there would be a universal understanding that any woman can be a victim. Yet, this judge is far from alone in his opinions.

In fact, third wavers and the left have been busily constructing an invulnerable woman themselves: the “cis” woman. “Cis” says that all females who understand that they are women or girls are born with privilege — an odd concept to get one’s head around considering that it is specifically being born female that places women in a subordinate class, under patriarchy. But this is, of course, the point. The so-called left, as it has manifested itself among young college students and queer activists,  has adopted the term specifically to dismantle the notion of patriarchy itself. If being born female in this world and being socialized as such equates to holding power and privilege, patriarchy ceases to exist as a true and legitimate system of power.

While certainly there are groups of women on this planet who are particularly vulnerable — poor women, women of colour, and disabled women, for example — it is also true that simply being born female ensures you a lifetime of vulnerability, harassment, fear, and discrimination. But today, “cis” has effectively erased that reality — it has erased the systemic nature of women’s oppression, and the fact that we have no choice in the matter. “Cis” says that it is not females who are oppressed under patriarchy, but people (or folx, if you prefer) — and that oppression is based not on what class of people you are born into, but on one’s internal, chosen, or expressed “identity.” So, for example, if you choose to identify as “non-binary” or “transgender,” you can claim women who are just regular old females hold power and privilege over you. I mean, tell that to a girl born into a brothel, or the countless girls who are sexually abused by male family members, or the girls who are subjected to FGM, or trafficked within their communities. Tell that to a woman who must endure pregnancy because she can’t access an abortion or who is thrown in jail for miscarrying. Tell the women murdered by their partners or ex-partners every day, across the globe. Tell the hundreds of Indigenous women who have gone missing or been murdered, on account of male violence. Do tell these girls and women about their “cis” privilege.

There are other labels queer activists and third wavers use to erase female oppression, like “white” and “middle class.” Trans activist Paris Lees made use of both recently, as a means to dismiss feminist discourse about womanhood.

While white, middle class women do, of course, hold white privilege and class privilege, this does not erase their femaleness. In this case, Lees, like so many liberals are fond of doing, evoked the “middle class white cis woman” trope to imply a lack of vulnerability. In other words, on a scale of one to Paris Lees, the “middle class white cis woman” is at the bottom, in terms of vulnerability. She is irrelevant in terms of conversations about systemic oppression and victimization.

These various labels are used intentionally in order to silence women. They are used consistently by other white, middle class men and women who wish to dismiss and shut down feminist speech. Lees, who was born both white and male, but identifies as a transwoman, wrote a piece a couple of years ago called, “Ban sex work? Fuck off white feminism.”  Of course, the movement to end sexual exploitation of women is led by all kinds of women, including women of colour, exited prostituted women, and working class women, but for the sake of Lees’ argument, it was more effective to pretend otherwise:

“I am both white and a feminist. But I am not what you would call a White Feminist, capital letters, for I am also trans. White Feminism is a special club but membership doesn’t rest solely on race. White Feminism is about privilege. Ladies who lunch and feel hard done by because a man held the door open for them on their way in to the Four Seasons.”

In other words, despite the fact that Lees was born white and male, it is women who hold all the privilege and should not speak about an issue like the sex trade, which predominantly victimizes women and girls (indeed, “cis” women and girls, as Lees would call them). By identifying out of the category “cis,” Lees is able to claim Most Oppressed status, and demand those with the great luck of being born female shut up. Specifically, it is anyone who puts forth a feminist analysis of male violence that names the problem who must shut up, on account of the intentionally invented trope of the “rich white cis female.”

Any woman who takes a feminist position against prostitution or the notion of “gender identity,” you’ll notice, is characterized in this way, in order to position her as “privileged” and therefore a person who couldn’t possibly know a thing about oppression. Beyond that, a “cis” woman cannot express fear of male violence or even name male violence as such, if the male in question has identified his way out of cisism. Once a woman does this, she is discriminating against a vulnerable person — she is even characterized as the perpetrator of violence herself. If this is true, any male who perpetrates violence against women could claim to not be “cis,” thereby identifying into oppressed status, and no longer guilty of a misogynist crime.

Even simply speaking about our female bodies is harmful, oppressive, and violent, these days.

“I doubt that most of the marchers realized they were participating in gender essentialism and violence against transgender people,” Nian Hu wrote for The Harvard Crimson, in reference to the pussy hats and uterus signs so many brought along to the Women’s March in January.

I mean, really. Let’s think about this…

Women wore pussy hats in protest of Donald Trump’s infamous “grab them by the pussy” line. That is to say, women were protesting sexual assault perpetrated against women, not because they identified with femininity, but because they had vaginas, which, in a rape culture, are seen as up for grabs. They carried signs with uteruses on them because the Trump administration doesn’t believe women should have control over their own reproductive capacity. And this somehow constitutes “privilege” and “violence”??

The ongoing use of the “privileged woman” trope, as it is used by third wavers and leftists, does not exist to address systems of oppression — it exists to erase them, and to silence those who dare center women in their activism.

If we refuse to understand that male violence is something that targets all women — that we are all vulnerable to simply on account of being female — we accept and normalize it.

Mary Mason, CEO of Solace Women’s Aid, told The Independent that “One of the things that a lot of victims of domestic abuse say is that they’ve not been believed because either they’re well educated, or they’re well-dressed, or they’re middle class or they speak English.” Mason said that 33-year-old Fakhara Karim “felt humiliated and now feared for her life,” yet Judge Mansell felt confident in determining that because of what would be described as “privilege” by the liberal feminist brigade, she could not possibly be a victim.

Karim was not choked in public, hit in the back with a cricket bat, called a “slag” for socializing with her friends, and threatened with murder by a person, as a person — she was attacked as a woman, by a man. That is how domestic violence works, time and time again. It is not gender neutral, nor does it care about a woman’s education, intelligence, or internal “identity.”

It is here we can see how dangerous identity politics can be — in applying these particular identities to women in order to construct them as invulnerable, we fail to protect them and offer them justice. We fail to address the socialization, institutions, industries, and systems that allow and encourage male violence against women. We fail to understand that patriarchy doesn’t care about a woman’s feelings or about whether or not she identifies with the gender imposed on her — it cares only that she was born with a vagina.

Meghan Murphy
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Meghan Murphy is a freelance writer and journalist. She has been podcasting and writing about feminism since 2010 and has published work in numerous national and international publications, including New Statesman, Vice, Al Jazeera, The Globe and Mail, I-D, Truthdig, and more. Meghan completed a Masters degree in the department of Gender, Sexuality and Women’s Studies at Simon Fraser University in 2012 and lives in Vancouver, B.C. with her dog.

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  • Wren


    • Meghan Murphy

      Thanks Wren!

  • Rachael

    Can men get any more ridiculous in the lengths they will go to in order to convince themselves that women are somehow causing their own grief? The lack of sentencing in the domestic violence case is revolting and I hope it gets looked at again. Once more it gives out the message that women can be used and abused and absolutely nothing will come of it because we don’t matter.

    It really does seem as if we are living in some bizarre version of reality where biological women are not only oppressed but we are meant to believe that we are privileged at the same time because we aren’t trans. I mean…it’s just mind blowing, it really is. We’ve got to fight harder than ever.

    • Sabine

      “It really does seem as if we are living in some bizarre version of reality where biological women are not only oppressed but we are meant to believe that we are privileged at the same time because we aren’t trans.”

      That’s it in a nutshell!!!!!

  • Way to tell ’em Meghan. Seriously this is a great connect the dots post. Have you read the last post at Fourth Wave? It also provides necessary linkages that people need to see more of.

  • Saying that white, middle class women are not oppressed is tantamount to claiming that oppression does not exist at all on an axis of sex. It can only be class, race, disability, etc.

    • Cassandra

      That is exactly right and exactly where we’re headed. Men as a class would love for this to become a widespread belief. That’s why gender ideology must be defeated.

    • Leo

      It doesn’t even fully acknowledge oppression on the axis of class – middle class doesn’t mean ‘upper class and fabulously wealthy’. It doesn’t necessarily mean that well off at all.

  • Lucia Lola

    Paris Lees is my goto when people ask why I have a problem with transwomen erasing women. Easiest argument I’ve ever had to make.

  • FierceMild

    Well, it’s a good thing he didn’t do anything really bad like miss a wicket or something. All he did was pour some bleach in a faulty appliance and who among us hasn’t done that? It’s not like she was Trans or anything.

    How do these judges live with what they’ve done? There is no answer but that they really don’t think we’re actual people…or actually alive in any substantive way. If that man had beaten an animal with a bat and forced it to drink bleach there would be public outcry, but a menstruator? Nah, you do you, bro.

    No wonder they sign orders to let men into our shelters and locker rooms. From their point of view that must at least provide the opportunity form both the locker rooms and the front holes to be put to good use by actual people.

    • Leo

      Dunno, public outcry, yes, but there was at least some over this, and animal abuse cases aren’t always effectively prosecuted either, especially if perpetuated by privileged males (ie. the near total failure to protect wildlife from hunting shooting toff bastards). And people go back to splitting their perspective over the abuse of non human animals, too, just like with women. Choking a woman in a day to day context is domestic violence, in the bedroom it’s just sex.

  • Kathleen Lowrey

    This part of his sentencing:

    “Judge Mansell QC ordered Bashir to attend a workshop entitled “building better relationships” and pay £1,000 costs”

    ahahahahahahah “better relationships”. Like, your last relationship where you forcibly poured bleach down the throat of another human being? That was *okay*, we just feel like you could do a little better. We’re sure you mean well, you’re just making some misguided choices and maybe you need a few pointers about alternative ways to resolve disputes.

    How about a class called “no more relationships for you anytime soon, buddy” or “how to leave people the eff alone”. Like this approach of “of course you deserve lots more chances! Hey soon maybe you’ll also be practicing on your small children, too! Magical learning moments ahead!” seems actually like 100% a part of the problem, because it is such a part of the domestic violence formula (promises to do better, huge hopes attached to that promise, lots of credit given in advance for promises, and dangerously on and on).

  • hellkell

    Fantastic article!

    Paris Lees is a fucking moron. A ignorant caricature who would be living in Cheeto-dusted obscurity in his mom’s basement if not for his pornified appearance and retrograde schtick.

  • Polly MacDavid

    Fabulous article!

  • Sabine

    I’m sure my girlfriends (of all ethnicities, many white) who have been raped, beaten and abused were massively soothed afterwards by the knowledge of their “cis privilege”…..It’s always been the first thing to spring to mind when I’ve been threatened with and subjected to male violence. Odd though how in reality my IQ and skin colour didn’t make the slightest difference to those men…didn’t stop the assaults. Being female strangely seemed to have an awful lot to do with it. Thankfully I have somebody like Paris Lees to clear up all this confusion for me. I’ll just sit down and shut up.

  • hyperjoy

    regards to the bizarre reality we are living in now where biological
    women are the oppressed, but we’re supposed to believe we are the
    I realized this many years ago when I sought
    help for myself in the male “mental health” system. When I finally got
    around to analyzing the hateful treatment I received I concluded that
    not only did those men want to commit crimes against me, they wanted
    *me* to be jailed for those crimes and for *them* to be given all the
    support and sympathy which would rightly go to the victim. This is a
    long standing pattern of behavior among many men.

  • hyperjoy

    Fantastic article!

  • will

    Thank you for this essay. It’s REALLY good.

    • Meghan Murphy

      Thanks will!

    • Tired feminist

      I second that!

      • Meghan Murphy

        Thanks Tired!

  • Americus91

    Oh yes that holding the door open thing – it’s the absolute worst. Much worse than when I was 18 and in college, walking back to my dorm and 5 males rushed me, tackled me and pulled my sweats down around my ankles – just for shits and giggles. I was lucky though – I mean of course it could have been much worse – no need to feel too fearful or humiliated, they were just messing around.

    Or in my 20’s temping for a company, delivering office mail and stepping into the office of an older male in upper management and hearing, “When you walk in here, stop holding the mail up in front of you – keep your arms down- you have a lot to show off – let me and others see it.” – but yeah, that door holding business – they can f-off with that nonsense.

  • Meghan Murphy

    My body has felt “wrong” since I was probably about 10, in fact. I’d wager to guess most women feel their bodies are “wrong,” and have felt that for most of their lives. Based on your definition, none of us are “cis.”

  • Tired feminist

    Hey look, it’s Miguel Blando again to teach us!

    Go ahead, Miguelito, enlighten us: what privilege exactly do we bear for being born female? You seem to know a lot about how it feels to have a female body. Care to elaborate?

  • Morag999

    “Being cis is a huge advantage. From the minute you pop out of the womb your body doesn’t feel wrong. Imagine that.”

    OK. I’m imagining.

    But, newborns are notoriously difficult to keep satisfied and happy. If it’s not one thing, it’s another … hungry or gassy, too cold or too warm, over-tired or over-stimulated … on and on it goes. And they fuss, cry and scream quite often.

    In fact, one might say that newborns, more or less, are in a constant state of dysphoria! With all these challenges in keeping a human infant feeling comfortable and secure, how can a mother know if her baby was ALSO born in the wrong body?

    Please write a detailed guide on how to recognize gender dysphoria in the neonate. I want to see how much more ludicrous this “wrong body” narrative can get.

  • “damages your socialization”???? Socialization damages us! Male socialization limits and constrains men from experiencing their full humanity. Female socialization the same.

  • eevers

    So you just skipped over the whole point of the article then? At what point did the author dismiss a trans person’s experience, or not “recognize” it?

  • Meghan Murphy

    Thank you!

  • Meghan Murphy

    A couple of questions:

    1) Where did I attack transwomen in this article?

    2) What do you think feminism is?

    3) What do you think my agenda is?

    Thanks in advance.

    • DeColonise

      “What do you think my agenda is?” Ehrm… free vegan icecream for the world? No? Oh shoot….

      • Meghan Murphy

        So close, though!

  • Meghan Murphy

    Where have trans people been ‘bashed’?

  • Tired feminist

    LOL. It’s time for YOU to stop barging into women’s websites telling them what to do. Have some fucking manners.

  • Tired feminist

    Oh, I love to punch down. The patriarchy, male supremacy, gender.

  • oneclickboedicea

    Lol, a huge number of girls dont just pop out of the womb though do they miguel, they are killed before they are born for having the wrong biology, ie not being male, fuck all to do with identity sweetie. The wrong biology. Grow up.

  • Meghan Murphy

    I’ve long been a big fan of Dave Chappelle’s and was also pretty pissed off after watching the first part of his special (I like the second part way better). I will say that I do kinda think you maybe have to be a fan to get his humour… He is raunchy and there are layers to what he saying. I think he is a great comedian and I find a lot of his commentary super on point, but yeah, I also felt, by the end of the special, that like, dude you do not give a rat’s ass about women’s oppression… The commentary around OJ and Nicole pissed me right off.

  • Melanie

    Who’s ‘popping’ them out of the womb Miguel? The leading cause of death of girls and women worldwide is childbirth. This is because of a lack of access to reproductive health care and often as a result of being too young to carry a child and give birth, but being raped and forced to give birth because you were born female into patriarchy. Such an advantage.

  • Meghan Murphy

    Maybe my response was unclear… I don’t think he actually believes women are oppressed, to be honest. His new special demonstrates as much, as did his recent appearance on SNL. I suppose I’m struggling with the fact that I like his comedy and think that much of his commentary is, like I said, on point. But my comment didn’t intend to defend his misogyny. I agree that his misogyny shouldn’t be defended simply because he makes other intelligent or funny commentary. I also will admit that I struggle, still, with the struggle of being a fan of men who are misogynist. (I have long struggled with this as a hop hop fan, for example…)

  • Meghan Murphy

    Yep. Agree with all of this.

  • Tired feminist

    And denying their existence!

  • Tired feminist

    I’m not surprised to learn this guy is popular among white men. Nothing bonds men together more than hating women together. It’s the one common denominator between men of all races and classes and sexual orientations and political preferences.

  • Rich Garcia

    I said they help to prop it up. You have your lion’s share of neoliberal and white supremacist females alike who abet the system of Patriarchy by virtue of their race or economic status. And white middle-class women live in relative comfort compared to most people of color.

  • Meghan Murphy

    I think it’s important to hold white women to account for their racism and classism, but I have to point out that your analysis here is flawed. Many women choose men over sisterhood — not just white women. In working class communities, communities of colour, etc., women often will side with their ‘brothers’ over the broader sisterhood. It is absolutely not true to say that men of colour are being held to account for the violence they perpetrate against women. I know Indigenous women who have been trying to deal with the violence and abuse perpetrated by Indigenous men in their communities for years, only to be silenced, ignored, and ostracized.

    • Rich Garcia

      @meghan_murphy:disqus I concur and believe it’s necessary to point that not all women of color are on board with the Women’s Movement, and those who have conservative views about the roles of men and women and an ethnocentric mindset see it as a racist agenda meant to create division in the non-white communities.

      Black anti-feminists in particular run on the assumption that black men either indulge in their misogyny or reject toxic masculinity because they are “emasculated” or have “forgotten their masculine role”, and believe that black feminists are misguided, man-hating proto-lesbians who do harm to the black community (even though a contingent of black faux-feminists are using Feminism to bash black males and promote interracial dating with white males, who are their historical oppressors).

      So I agree that women of color play their role in rejecting and sabotaging Women’s Liberation. And this plays into the hands of the MRAs and trans activists, who need a reason to turn people against activist Feminism and cast white females as the prime beneficiaries of White Supremacy. Maybe I misspoke out of a growing sense of distrust for people in the Donald Trump era.

  • FierceMild

    “The 53 percent of white women who voted with their race when they elected Donald Trump into office, the stifling PC atmosphere brought on by white liberals on college campuses and in our culture, and the failures of Third Wave Feminism, which has alienated marginalized groups of women, are proof.”

    Proof of what? How are these depressing statistics and over-attributions proof that white women uphold Patriarchy and its ideals more than other groups of women?

    You really need to prove that white women invented, implemented, and maintain the PC atmosphere on college campuses (in which it is still okay to rape women (white or otherwise) behind dumpsters and walk away scott free to eat your steak) and the liberalism of broader culture, and the ineffectuality of third wave feminism all by themselves with no or very few contributions by women of colour at all…notice how this is devolving into a case of let’s blame women for their own oppression? That’s what I mean by divisive; this is nothing more then another man yelling accusations of White Feminism at women.

    “When it’s beneficial for women to think in terms of their race or their class you’ll see how quick they’ll throw any notion of “sisterhood” with other groups of women out the window. This is all the more true if you were look into the history of the Suffragettes who used to the abolition of slavery as a platform to attain equality with white males, while showing their racist colors when black males got the right to vote before them, and leaving black females to fight for their suffrage alone.”

    In the same sentence you acknowledge the fact that feminist women were the driving force behind outlawing chattel slavery and deny that any of those feminist women were WoC. Then you go on to blame Suffragettes for resenting male supremacy. There absolutely was racism among Suffragettes, there absolutely is racism within feminism now, but don’t use that as an excuse to blame Patriarchy on white women. It is monumentally unhelpful and innacurate to act and speak as if white women as opposed to WoC who, according to you, always put sisterhood before men are responsible for Patriarchy.

    White women have more power and privilege relative to WoC and particularly black women in the west. It is fair and just to call white women on racism and middle class women on classism. It is absolutely unjust, and a denial of socialization and structural male supremacy, to set up white middle class women as a pinnacle of power capable of destroying Patriarchy, eradicating racism, and freeing Women of Colour if they would just be arsed to care.

    “That is why feminist women of color get shit done when they hold the males in their cultures accountable for their actions, as opposed to aligning themselves with a broader Western feminist collective, where nothing gets done because your segment of the movement has been turned into a freak show co-opted by crossdressers, slut walkers, and corrupt corporate interests. Rant finished…”

    Of course women of colour “get shit done” when they hold men accountable for their actions instead of capitulating with Patriarchy. That’s how successful feminism works, even for white middle class women. It is completely counter-factual to act as if third wave feminism (which I completely agree is a circus of misogyny and backlash) is practiced only by white women.

    It would be fantastic if white middle class women would leverage their greater power within culture for the cause of feminism, but the fact that they haven’t yet doesn’t make them more responsible for Patriarchy then other women who also have not risen against their oppressors.

  • Meghan Murphy

    I see what you’re saying, but 1) I tire of my own excessive scare quotes that point out _______ isn’t *really* doing feminism or doesn’t actually have a class analysis, and 2) The kind of behaviour we’re talking about here actually *is* being engaged in and supported by people involved in the labour movement (the unions are getting real bad with this kind of crap, for example) and who otherwise support socialism.

    I agree that one’s analysis is not really a leftist one if you don’t understand women’s oppression as class based, and resort to all this neoliberal garbage around personal choice and identity, but at the same time, those who represent the left are doing this. Likely, many of them are just going along with it out of fear….

  • Tired feminist

    Lol, you could have replied “but I do identify as a woman!” just to see their reaction 😀

  • Atheist

    Well that’s just it. People just assume that being privileged in one area of your life means being omnipotent in all areas of life and that’s not true. I’ve said it on another post and it’s worth saying again: having light skin doesn’t protect white women from sexism, it doesn’t protect white gays and lesbians from homophobia, and it didn’t protect Jews and Poles from the gas chambers during WWII. It’s disheartening to see activists brush off women’s abuse as “well you’re white (or educated, or rich), so shut the fuck up and suck up the abuse you first world b****.” It’s misogyny plain and simple.

    Domestic violence never has, and never will, be determined by social status or class. Domestic violence has always existed right alongside sexism and heteronormativity which put women at men’s mercy and in the position to be abused in the first place.

  • Meghan Murphy


  • Rich Garcia

    @beefandbeanburrito:disqus Everything you are telling me now I used to point out a long time ago. About white women being the scapegoats for everyone else’s oppression because of their race and the fact that their position in a white supremacist society puts them in an advantageous position to sic the white man on everyone else if they felt threatened.

    I would have written this off as bollocks because I thought race was irrelevant to the global oppression of females, and a major factor in dividing women. But I don’t see it like that anymore. Not when you have white women drumming up racist and nationalistic fear and hatred against minorities in their countries because the white race has ironically become the world’s minority.

    Or old bigots like Pat Condell who pretends to care about European women in countries like Germany and Sweden so he can have an excuse to point the finger at non-white males (namely Arab Muslims) coming into Europe for supposedly importing their rape culture and attacking the very white women white men could care less about if there were no “diversity”.

    Never mind the fact that countries like Germany and the Netherlands are hubs of prostitution where African, Asian, and Eastern European women are trafficked in every day, and the johns in these countries are worse than the Arabs and Africans they hate so much.

    You see why I have grown more skeptical of white people, regardless of their sex, and question the role women play in upholding Patriarchy, which is just an extension of white supremacy here in America. Mind you, I’ll never deny the role non-white men (with the help of some non-white women as well) play in upholding the Patriarchy in their communities or parts of the world. But enough about me.

  • Meghan Murphy

    First, men who identify as women are not the same as women of colour, so stop conflating the two in your efforts to fake ‘intersectionality.’ Second, please explain how men who wish they were women are more marginalized than actual women?

  • Aylune B. Papyrus

    Men have more power than women.
    Therefore, transwomen, who are men, have more power than women.

    Thank you, good bye.

  • Aylune B. Papyrus

    I thought of this article today as I was reading this piece from Bustle about the toxic call-out culture on YA Twitter :

    Especially this passage jumped at me, really bad : “As a white woman in publishing, The Witchlands author Susan Dennard knows her road has been far less fraught than those of women of color. But when she experienced pushback on her novel, she chose to do something about it: She listened. “As a white woman, I have privilege I did nothing to earn,” Dennard tells Bustle. “My experience will never be the same as someone from a marginalized group, so I cannot truly represent such perspectives, which is why it’s so important to give diverse voices the microphone, and to listen when they say, ‘Hey, you got this wrong,’ or, ‘This was harmful, and here’s why.'”

    I couldn’t believe this. You are absolutely right, this is no exaggeration… this narrative has become so widely accepted that women don’t even consider themselves as part of a marginalized group. They don’t see themselves, and aren’t seen, as marginalized under patriarchy. Being female, it would seem, is an amazing privilege (as long as you’re also white).

  • radwonka

    tldr: you are a dumbass.