What’s Current: Trans-identified male files human rights complaint when female beautician won’t give him a Brazilian wax

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  • A trans-identified male has filed a human rights complaint against a salon in Windsor, Canada, after being told that none of the female staff on duty that day were willing to touch male genitals in order to give him a Brazilian wax.
  • A third girl was raped and then burned to death in India last week, after the 16-year-old victim stated her intent to tell her family that she’d been attacked.
  • A man who admitted to beating his wife to death in North Carolina is expected to serve less than a year in prison.
  • A new law forbids Kansas police from coercing people they’ve detained into sex.
  • In The Guardian, Gail Dines connects the popularity of choking in pornography and men bringing that practice into relationships with women:

“Data from studies on domestic violence indicate that the women most at risk of being murdered by their partners are those who were choked. Frontline activists who work with battered women say that while the batterer calls it ‘choking,’ it is in many cases actually strangulation. Of these women, ‘up to 68 per cent will experience near-fatal strangulation by their partner.’ Being strangled damages the ‘woman’s throat and makes breathing, swallowing, coughing and talking difficult.’ When the batterer takes it a few step further, ‘loss of consciousness can occur within 5 to 10 minutes; death within minutes.'”

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  • Zoë Lafantaisie

    It’s working for me – maybe it’s been fixed.

    • Meghan Murphy

      Was fixed yes sorry!

  • Zoë Lafantaisie

    OR, they know exactly what they’re doing – often their apparent stupidity is a tactic.

  • Midori

    If I hadn’t reached “Peak Trans” a long time ago, the first story would do it. I mean, this story has the words “male entitlement” written all over it. A male-bodied person, who fancies himself a woman, fills a human rights complain for not getting a Brazilian wax. Let that sink in: not getting a Brazilian wax is now a violation of human rights. The trans/gender movement is so grossly misogynistic and backwards.
    Also, I remember, that the owner of this salon said that none of the employees was trained in giving male-bodied people a Brazilian wax (but that they’ve done it for post-op transwomen). So, I’m sure that if one of the employees had tried it and if she had hurt this entitled dude, he would have sued too, because: “Wahh, transphobia. This b*tch tried to kill me by ripping my dick off!” ~.~

  • Jani

    The influence of pornography on sexual behaviour is very apparent to those of us who have been around long enough to remember a time before the internet effectively domesticated extreme hardcore pornography — which at one time was only available through seedy bookstores and had to be asked for as some of it wasn’t even legal (I’m talking about the Obscene Publications Act in the UK). When I first became sexually active, I never encountered anyone who was interested in anal sex, there was no such thing as “ass to mouth”, and “double penetration” and “airtight” weren’t even seen in explicit pornography. All of these acts are, of course, ways of subjugating, humiliating and overpowering women by using the penis as a weapon. Gagging is another example of a vile act of subjugation. I admire Gail Dines for calling out choking for what it is—strangulation. It’s an act of violence. It’s not “breath play”. It isn’t any kind of “play” at all. As Gail Dines has said in the past, once violence becomes sexualised it becomes invisible. And as I’ve said, and probably countless others have too, in response to the notion of “consensual violence”, once women “consent” to sexual violence, we’re all fucked. Who is going to believe us when the defence goes something like “She wanted me to choke her..”?

  • Safa

    “Majority of the comments were people who were supportive” probably because the spa owner is male and the employee is complying with a male-created religion. This is an interesting situation because mostly MtFs attack females. The trans agenda is in conflict with some aspects of the patriarchal system like religion and rights of business owners (most of which are male).

  • Kathleen Lowrey

    The Brazilian wax story reminds of something I was wondering about the other day — in jurisdictions where prostitution is legal, are “sex workers” allowed to refuse service to anyone they like? Is there any case law on this that people know about? Because if sex work is like the hospitality industry — just work, etc. etc. — then presumably just like a restaurant can’t refuse to sit black customers, Asian customers, disabled customers, Muslim customers, fat customers. and so on, wouldn’t there be a legal case for anyone refused service by a sex worker for any reason that could be linked to civil rights grounds? ie, no shoes, no shirt would be okay but you could build a case against a sex worker by documenting that she had a pattern of declining fat guys or hairy guys or whatever.

    Which would, of course, throw consent out the window.

    • Wren

      Prostitutes in Nevada brothels are not allowed to refuse service to any man. I don’t have any idea what laws might pertain to this, but the law doesn’t really matter in a brothel where the women have few constitutional rights. The owner (pimp or madame) calls the shots and the women are generally competing against each other to make money. I imagine this is universal.

      • lk

        Awhile back, I read something about one of the Nevada brothels and it said the men had to go through a visual dc (dick check) and if they have any visual signs of stds that they would be turned away.

        I always wondered if this was true or if this was something that was just stated on the website to create the illusion that the brothels really care about the health of the prostitutes working there.

  • Tobysgirl

    Watch old movies. The police used to be hated by a huge segment of the American population, and on television now it’s constant heroes, heroes, heroes. And then the next story is about an abusive or murderous cop. My point about law enforcement is this: The truly sociopathic among you may be very few in number, but I have no respect for people who function as a gang and refuse to disassociate themselves from the truly sociopathic.

    • FierceMild

      Don’t ever trust a man with power

      • Tobysgirl

        Please see my comment to Kathleen below. I cannot believe that someone as radical as her comments appear to be would misread what I said. And then sneer at me.

  • martindufresne

    Re: the attempt to force the hand of a Windsor beautician and her employer:
    The fact that the complainant “identifies as” female has nothing to do with Mr. Carruther’s decision not to inflict on his employees wax procedures on male genitalia, because that is what they are.
    It will however provide the complainant with an excuse to harrass this business owner and possibly his employees – and by extension Muslim women – because of an ill-advised piece of legislation (Bill C-16) that allows Canadian courts to be tied up by anyone who wants to whine about his “gender expression” or “gender identity” being hindered. The sooner this godawful law is struck down on the face of its adverse effects, the better.

    • Christine

      Hear, hear.

  • Wren

    UGHHHH.

  • Hekate Jayne

    YAS.

    I will bring cake.

  • Deborah

    “First, how many women would describe getting a Brazilian wax as dignified?”

    I know! But he probably figured, “This is what ladeez do, and I so want to be a lady!” He can have that shit.

  • lk

    My question is why would you want to have sex with someone you are arresting?! On some level, any officer who does this must know that its wrong and exploitative.

    Coercing or getting sexual favors from a woman you are arresting should be literally the last thing on your mind. In what world is that appropriate? I think this is what happens when men look at every single interaction with a female as a chance to get sex or sexual favors…

    I’m arresting a woman..let me see if I can get sex from her!
    I’m interviewing a woman…let me ask if I can masturbate in front of her! (CK Lewis)
    I’m talking to an up and coming actress…i’ll help her with her career if she has sex with me (every guy in Hollywood).

    I find the whole thing disturbing.

    • TwinMamaManly

      It’s a power thing. Pretty much state-sanctioned rape. So why the hell not?

      Although this is very unfair to the good cops out there. My partner was a police officer for 10 years and he was disgusted by this. We are in Australia though, I think the laws may be different here as we occasionally have police brutality complaints but not sexual assault.

  • SkyLark Phillips

    That makes me sick to my stomach.

  • Hanakai

    You are naive.

    Read this article about how scads of lying police who faked evidence to railroad an innocent black man who now awaits execution. Happens everyday.

    https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2018/05/17/opinion/sunday/kevin-cooper-california-death-row.html?hp&action=click&pgtype=Homepage&clickSource=story-heading&module=photo-spot-region&region=top-news&WT.nav=top-news

  • Tobysgirl

    You’re too intelligent not to have read my short comment. Nowhere did I say I have no respect for the police at all — what I have a problem with is the gang mentality. If decent police did not tolerate the sociopathic among them, all our law enforcement organizations would see improvement. I have always dealt with weird individuals showing up at my door myself, including coon hunters hunting quite near my house (I told them to clear the fuck out! and I will tell you I was home alone). I have confronted men who were behaving violently in public. I have had very polite and decent interactions with my local sheriff’s department and warden service, usually questions I needed to ask, but I am WHITE and appear MIDDLE-CLASS and STRAIGHT. I am under no illusions regarding the privileges my skin color, my marital status, and my seeming education provide me.

  • Meghan Murphy

    Communities generally *don’t* “handle their business,” though. Generally they protect their own (men). I don’t think cops are any less misogynistic than any other man, but they are at least meant to be accountable to us/the state, whereas community men are not. I had to call the cops in my small community specifically *because* the community (which claimed ‘we don’t need the cops’ because ‘we handle our business’) sided with my abuser to protect him and ostracized and spread vicious rumours about me, claiming I lied.

    I have had to call the cops at 3 or 4 in the morning when I’ve been afraid of a man. Who else am I to call? In some situations they’ve been helpful, others not.

    I’ve never been particularly pro-cop, but practically and unfortunately we do still need them.

    If community actually WERE holding other men accountable (or not being violent or predatorial) then I guess we wouldn’t need the cops, as women, but that’s not the case…

    • Tobysgirl

      I am very sorry to hear of your experiences, Meghan, and I am very thankful I never found myself in the situations you have (probably because most men are at least a little scared of me — I hope they’ve learned to be scared of you). What hell it must be to be young these days!

  • Wren

    see above edit

  • lk

    Like, do we think he is just suing for attention and money and didn’t really want the service?

    Maybe, but I also think TRA’s are always looking to show how discriminated they are because of their “gender identity.”

    No doubt, TIM’s are constantly in search of anything to validate their identity and they seem to set their sight on anyone who dares do anything that does not validate their belief that thy are truly women.

  • lk

    That’s really what I thought…that theoretically, a woman in a brothel can turn a man away but in reality it probably doesn’t happen.

    Before I read up on how awful work in legal brothels were, I think I felt like legal brothel owners cared somewhat about the women in their brothels, that these women have autonomy over who they service and etc. (this is overwhelmingly the image that they portray)…but at some point I realized that brother owners are just pimps who only care about making as much money off of women as possible and of course, if women started turning men away the owner’s bottom line would suffer. I mean, really why would a pimp care if a woman gets an std from a john…he’ll just replace her with another woman. And I’m sure no brothel owner wants his brothel to have a reputation of turning men away.

  • Tobysgirl

    I knew you were agreeing with me, I just wanted you to read my comment below. And your observation, further elucidated in your second comment, is absolutely right on!

    • FierceMild

      I grew up in a small town with one police officer (part time). That position, which is now full time, is embedded in the community and requires excellent negotiating skills. I trust the young man who has the job now because he’s proven himself. I still think caution is always advisable and trust should have limits.

      • Tobysgirl

        Yes, this is what I have noticed about local law enforcement. They are far more answerable to the community than police in large cities, they know the people who constantly get into trouble and are usually pretty tolerant and helpful unless they start stealing guns (for some reason this gets the sheriff’s department very upset!). A friend of mine’s boyfriend was stealing, and the detective warned her that letting her boyfriend use her property to store his thefts put her property in jeopardy. We have a setup here called Reparative Justice to train nonviolent prisoners in new skills and have them repay their victims. But I think a lot of this is in place because we are WHITE, rural, and low population.

  • Tobysgirl

    And Hanakai, I live in the whitest state (Maine) and generally our law enforcement is pretty responsible, undoubtedly due to our low population and our whiteness. But my experience of the police in NYC and Boston was not positive. In Cleveland, Ohio, in the 1960s the cops got so tired of beating up black people they started beating up white, middle-class people, and then there was a response to their behavior.
    Once again, I don’t think all police are horrible people, but in order for the decent ones not to be lumped in with the sociopaths, they need to identify and reject the sociopaths.
    And it sounds like the Ladies Auxiliary when women jump in to sneer at other women when women criticize police brutality.

  • Serai 1

    It’s especially amusing to see these people who claim to be women and yet have NO idea how sex is experienced by women. I’d bet you dollars to donuts that if you asked any of them to describe the clitoris, they’d give you an explanation from fifty years ago. Yet they claim to know what sex feels like for us. It’s ridiculous.

  • Serai 1

    I don’t. I’m certain this is a case of some “trans activist” taking a page from the fundie Christian playbook and deciding to order a service specifically to get rejected and then be able to create a huge legal schtuss. Look for more of these incidents. They’ll be coming soon. It’s another tactic to force women to sit down and shut the fuck up while they’re violated, like the good ol’ days.

  • Serai 1

    Oh, but real women aren’t “real women”, dont’cha know, and thus don’t deserve dignity.