BDSM

BDSM FAQ (Frequently Asserted Quibbles): Part 3

Note: This post as well as the links and resources contained in this post may contain graphic descriptions of violence against women. “What about aftercare?” The mere fact of aftercare should clue…

BDSM FAQ (Frequently Asserted Quibbles), Part 2

Note: This post as well as the links and resources contained in this post may contain graphic descriptions of violence against women. “BDSM is not really abuse.” BDSM proponents promote the illusion…

BDSM FAQ (Frequently Asserted Quibbles): Part 1

Note: This post as well as the links and resources contained in this post may contain graphic descriptions of violence against women. Inspired by Meghan’s post on burlesque and the work of…

Fifty Shades of Gay: Coming soon?

Media mainstreaming of heterosexual sadomasochism as “what women want” reached an astounding apex with Fifty Shades of Grey. Its literary precursor Story of O, also written by a woman, had book and…

Review: Watching 50 Shades of Grey is torture

The last time two hours felt this long, I was in labour. Was I having a triple root canal sans anesthetic? Was I having a limb amputated? No. I was sitting through…

Why consent is not enough

Consent is the magical fairy dust which turns rape into sex; trafficking into free speech; and sexualized abuse, torture, and subjugation into sexual liberation — or so many people claim. Many “sex-positive…

The tyranny of consent

Emily Witt’s recent essay, in which she describes traveling to San Fransisco, where she watches a BDSM porn shoot for a Kink.com series called Public Disgrace, which depicts “women bound, stripped, and punished…

No, being ‘kinky’ does not grant you minority status

You’ve likely heard about the ‘cannibal cop‘ by now. He was a New York police officer whose wife discovered a website open on his computer displaying a photograph of a dead girl.…